Should I lower my standards and just go for it?

Meaningful, emotional sex with a partner you care about and who cares about you is more valuable and enjoyable than booty call sex. It's a misconception when you say most or all guys can just have sex with anyone anytime. Sure, some can but not all want to, and that is the difference. For you, sex may be more than just a physical release or pleasure for its own sake. Be patient, because if what you crave involves something deeper, then following a path of meaningless sex will bring you further from happiness, not closer. Be strong and confident, and be comfortable in your sexual preference. Standing up for what you believe and honorably seeking satisfaction are truly masculine traits. Don't get run down by trying to keep up with macho men. They are all phony anyway.